Hiring a Divorce Mediator
Spouses seeking a divorce may sometimes be more amicable than not and are willing to work together to come to agreements. However, sometimes they still need a little help, and a do-it-yourself method may not be the answer for them. This is where divorce mediation comes in.
How to Find Your Divorce Mediator

If you've chosen to go the route of mediation, you want to make sure that you get the right mediator for your specific needs. This will help ensure that both you and your spouse leave your marriage with a fair divorce settlement. You specifically want a neutral third-party that will advocate for both of you. This typically also means trying to find a mediator that focuses solely on mediation, and not necessarily one that is a divorce lawyer first, divorce mediator second. This simply has to do with a lawyer's mindset. Lawyers are typically fighting for only one side's interests, and if you hire a litigator as a mediator, you run the risk of that mindset transferring to your case.

Another thing to consider when looking for a mediator is their ability to trouble-shoot. Emotions run high during a divorce, and it is the mediator's job to keep things positive and help the spouses move past their arguments to reach a settlement. This brings us to the last thing about finding your mediator: your gut. When it comes right down to it, you need to listen to what it's telling you. If you don't think that the mediator is a good fit because their personality clashes with either you or your spouse, or if you feel that there is some kind of bias there, then move on to the next. This first step is crucial to making the rest of your divorce go as smoothly as possible, so be selective, take your time and do it right!

How to Work With Your Divorce Mediator

One thing that will really help your divorce go smoothly is really working with your mediator. This means being as prepared as possible to help them do their job for you and your spouse. Gathering all the information needed for disclosure in your divorce is one of those things that is better to invest the time in up front to help things progress easier later on. Documenting things like assets, liabilities, income, taxes, insurance, and other marital documents, such as your marriage certificate or wills, all need to be provided. If you and your spouse can get all these things together for your mediator, this will make their job easier.

Finally, remember that the point to mediation is for the two of you to come to agreement on all the terms that will eventually be finalized as part of your divorce. In order to help make this work, the mediator will need both of you to keep communication open, between the two of you as well as between you and the mediator. Try not to let your emotions get in the way of getting what you both want. When you and your spouse can commit to mediation, both of your interests are being served and as long as you work together with your mediator, your divorce will be finalized more quickly and the two of you can move on with your lives.

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